LILNR is a non-profit, educational organization, dedicated to providing a means for its members and guests to network, teach, learn, share, practice and discuss BDSM and other related kinks.

In 2018; LILNR and L.I.C.K. merged into one Long Island Community BDSM Kink Organization. To be known going forward as LILNR

• LILNR is also known as Long Island Leather N Roses – Est.1998
• L.I.C.K. is also known as Long Island Consensual Kink – Est. 2016

LILNR is a not for profit member elected, board-run organization designed for community transparency. We foster and adhere to safe sex practices, community safety, ethics, and the importance of emotional health. We do not discriminate by gender, sexual orientation, relationship lifestyle, race or creed.

It is our goal to create a community-centered atmosphere where adults with an interest in an alternative, BDSM, kink or D/s lifestyle, can further educate and foster good fellowship in a welcoming, nurturing and safe environment.

We welcome members looking to add to the constructive discourse about education, practice, and exploration through kink.

Current Membership Benefits include:
(beginning April 2020)

• Immediate ability to affect governance
• Discounted attendance to all LILNR parties, workshops, and classes
• Free attendance to LILNR Member’s Spring Fling, LILNR Member’s Ice Cream Social and LILNR Member’s Winter Holiday Potluck Social.
• Free attendance to all Open Membership Meetings held quarterly for all members who wish to be involved.
• Access to our Community Toy Box during our play parties, full of fun kinky toys to try before you buy.
• Access to our lending library, full of educational reading material about BDSM and related kink.
• A thorough grievance procedure ensuring any issues are resolved quickly and fairly.
• Access to our LILNR Member BAND Chat
• Discounts at numerous adult and fetish wear shops in New York and Long Island.

ay 1st and ends on April 31st. Payment may be made to a Membership Committee Member or Board Member. Additionally, photo ID may be required to prove that you are at least 19 years of age. For more information on becoming a member, please visit our membership page.

We accept cash at the door for all of our events and digital payment via PayPal at PayPal.me/LILNR.

We accept credit cards online for advance purchase play party tickets at a $10 discount. See the event listing for a link to purchase tickets.

Please see the event listing for location, as our location may vary.

With the exception of members-only events, membership is not a requirement to attend LILNR. However, the benefits of a LILNR membership should not be overlooked. Please see our membership page for more information on benefits you can receive.

Please see our events page for our current list of scheduled events. Our doors open at 7:00 pm and the presentation or class usually begins at 7:30 pm. Additionally, we usually host play parties one Saturday a month.

Meeting dates, topics and event information are also available on our FetLife Schedule of Events page.

All dates, times, and location are subject to change.

LILNR is not affiliated with any munch. We do, however, highly recommend attending all the munches in our local Long Island Community. We are a diverse group and you are sure to find Home. Since February 2021, we have a special interest group, TNG Nassau, running a digital munch the second and fourth Mondays of the month.

For the comfort, safety, and security of all, only vetted guests may attend our play parties.

Our confirmed guest list is STRICTLY adhered to.

You must be both VETTED and have responded to the event listing on FetLife as “GOING” in order to be added to the guest list and receive your confirmation message.

Our vetting policy requires that you do at least one of the following;

• Attend a BDSM 101 Class – https://fetlife.com/groups/141499.
• Been formally vetted by a LILNR board member in person.
• Attend a party as a guest of an active LILNR member who will vouch and take responsibility for you.

(TIP: You are likely to find a board member at an LILNR event or at a Long Island Community Munch.)

ATTENDING EVENTS:

A. LILNR, whether public or private, are reserved for those participants 19 and older only. No exceptions will be made. However, some events may specify a higher age requirement in the event listing.

B. Events in public must remain Vanilla. No physical play is permitted. This rule covers hair pulling, humiliation, spanking, dress, obvious bondage implements, etc. If there are questions, ask a member of the Board. If deemed inappropriate, an attending Officer will notify the Member directly.

C. All contact must be consensual. Never assume you can touch, kiss, hug, etc… anyone without prior permission. Ask before any contact.

D. No photos, videos, or recording of any kind may be taken without the express permission from all participants, hosts, Dungeon Monitor (if at a party), and a present Board member or presiding officer.

E. The possession, use and/or consumption of alcoholic beverages during any Group event, unless otherwise sanctioned, is strictly prohibited.

F. The unlawful possession, sale and or/use of any illegal drugs or controlled substances at any Group event is strictly prohibited.

PLAY PARTY RULES:

• Alcohol and Drugs are NOT permitted! If under the influence of alcohol, illegal drugs or controlled substance not prescribed by a physician, you will be asked to leave the premises and further disciplinary action will be taken.
• No photography or recording of any kind is permitted at any LILNR play party unless otherwise specified. IN CASE OF AN EXCEPTION: NO photos or videos may be taken without the express permission from all participants, hosts, DM, and a present Board Member or Presiding Officer.
• NO CAMERAS, CELL PHONE, or RECORDING DEVICES of any kind allowed in the play areas without a sticker covering all camera lens, step into the lounge and keep it on vibrate if you must.
• When entering or exiting the venue please be covered up in Vanilla acceptable clothing.
• Dungeon Monitors (DM) will be on duty at each party. DM decisions are final and not up for discussion.
• Do not stop a scene yourself. If you’re uncomfortable or feel it is unsafe, please notify a DM. A DM will make the decision to stop a scene in progress.
• Do not leave your bottom unattended during a scene. Do not ask a DM to attend to your play partner.
• Dungeon safe word is RED (to indicate that the scene has gone too far and/or consent has been violated). When a safe word is called, all play must stop immediately. When a bottom is gagged, an alternative method must be established with the DM.
• If a serious consent violation has occurred, the offending party will be immediately removed from the play area and party.
• Respect the space and those around you.
• Do not touch anyone else’s body or property without their permission.
• Keep scene length in mind. Don’t monopolize the equipment. 45 minutes or less is a respectable limit to scenes. – You must clean the equipment when you are finished using it.
• No bare bottoms on the non-kinky furniture. Please have coverings on your bottom, bring towels or use a chux pad when sitting on the furniture it is generally porous and can’t be easily cleaned.
• Chux pad, Lysol wipes, and cleaning supplies have been provided for your health and safety and that of those around you. If you are undressed from the waist down, put down a pad to protect yourself from the equipment and the equipment from you.
• If you are using a toy that does not belong to you please use a condom on it. After play wipe down all contacted surfaces with an antibacterial wipe.
• Sex-positive play spaces require safe sex practices. Insertion of any kind requires the use of barrier protection (not provided), this includes manual stimulation of genitals. Please inquire with a DM if you are unsure if it is a sex-positive play space or not.
• No anal, toilet, or blood play of any kind allowed for the health and safety of those around you and to avoid damage to the equipment. This includes soiled diapers.
• No fire play allowed
• Party hosts/venues reserve the right to impose additional rules as they deem necessary.
• The homeowner, venue owner, DM, or Board members reserve the right to prohibit play at their discretion
• Members will be liable for any damage caused to the equipment or venue property.

Soda cans and bottled water can be purchased for $1. Or you may bring your own.
Light snacks are also provided at our Play Parties.

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Events hosted by LILNR, rely heavily on our member volunteers in order to run a safe and successful event.

For each party, volunteers are necessary to provide services not limited to but including:

• Set up/decoration
• Clean up
• Purchasing of consumables
• New guest hosting
• A door person
• DM (Dungeon Monitoring)

If you have a special talent or skill that you think LILNR could benefit from, such as presenter/educator, carpentry skills, web design, etc., please do not hesitate to contact a member of the board

Volunteers are the backbone of any non-profit, volunteer-based organization.

AND WE WANT YOU!!

Please contact us to volunteer on Fetlife at LILNR-Board or by email at lilnr-lick-board@lilnrlick.org

Other ways you can help:

Donations of all kinds accepted

• snacks and baked goods
• party supplies
• dungeon furniture or toys
• tax-deductible donation

You can also help by inviting your friends to an event or encourage them to join LILNR, as well!

Word of mouth is a great way to help boost membership and attendance at parties.

Please contact our Programming Chair at programming@lilnrlick.org